When I went all natural, the challenging thing was to find a way to keep my curls intact without using industrial products. I started experimenting with cooking my own products; I tried the flaxseed gel technique and perfected it, but after a while, my hair started to dry out. I suspect that flaxseed gel works well with girls whose scalp produces more natural oils and probably have low porosity. My hair, on the other hand, drinks up anything I apply so fast you’d think I had the Lochness monster living on my head!

I have the understanding that when my hair is healthy and well moisturized, it is more likely to have happy bouncy curls. Since I found better results with leave-in creams than curling creams, I thought of making myself a cream.

The following recipe is a thick, highly moisturizing one; you can use this as you would a deep moisturizer OR if like me, you have high porosity hair that drinks it all in, you can use it as a leave-in conditioner. It shall seem a bit too shiny on the first day, but it’ll leave you with amazing hair the rest of the week.


  • 3 ½ tbsps. of milk
  • ½ tbsp. of glycerine
  • ½ tbsp. of borax powder (available in any pharmacy)
  • ½ tbsp. of olive oil
  • 1 tsp of coconut oil
  • 1 tsp of jojoba oil
  • 1 tsp of shea butter
  • 1 cm of beeswax
  • 3 drops of rose geranium essential oil
  • 2 drops of basil essential oil

Why these ingredients?

  • The borax, a mineral, is used here as an emulsifier. You know how oil and water hate each other? Well, an emulsifier is a product that helps oil soluble and water soluble products combine together. Borax is the only emulsifier I could find in the free market.
  • Beeswax adds structure and thickness to the cream, otherwise, it’ll be watery.
  • The essential oils are for fragrance, you can switch them with other scents that fit your liking. I love the scent made by the combination of rose and basil oils.
  • All the rest of the products are either humectants or moisturizing.


  1. Melt the beeswax. Place the wax in the inner pot and keep it warm. Make sure the water doesn’t get in or the beeswax gets out. If the beeswax gets out, you shall have a mess of sticky wax.
  1. Add the oils & butter to the pot with the beeswax.
  2. Combine the milk and glycerine separately. Gently, warm this up in a microwave.
  1. Add the milk & glycerine to the oils.
  2. Take the pot off the stove and add the borax powder.
  3. Whisk really fast using an immersion blender/hand blender (it’s the best option to blend these).
  4. The mixture will thicken into a fluffy cream. When done blending, pour it into a jar (place the jar in a cool water bath as you pour to make sure it doesn't break).
  5. Close the jar tight. You can use it immediately or refrigerate for later use.

How to use:

Take a dollop in your hand. Rub between your palms. Scrunch into your curls.

**I use this both after the shower after I’ve patted my hair with a towel. I could also spray water on my hair and use the cream as a leave-in when my hair is kind of dry during the week.

Things to keep in mind:

  • It’s not wise to apply direct heat to oils, you could burn the house down. You can use a bain-marie or create your own water bath as I do.
  • Don’t try to melt beeswax using direct heat. To melt beeswax, you need a bain-marie or a water bath.
  • Beeswax cools down really fast, so keep it warm till you use it. It is hard to wash out, you need to use boiling water to remove beeswax stains. Do not use a utensil you will miss in case you have difficulty removing all the wax.
  • After the cream is made, store it as you would a regular milk box, in the fridge. It contains milk, so it can spoil.
  • When refrigerated for a long time, the cream might become slightly grainy. That’s ok, it is not spoiled; shea butter can grain with recurrent change of temperature. Just rub the cream between your warm palms and it’ll melt

That’s all folks, enjoy!